Every couple is different. So are their relationships. But while some of us run away from marriage, others dive deep into it right from the start. There are also some who play the waiting game... either due to issues between the couple or their families. But say everything is sorted, rings have been exchanged and you've discussed getting married... experts say how long you take between that and to say your vows can actually determine quite a lot about your relationship! And we don't mean how long you've been in a relationship... this is purely considering the courtship time from the engagement to the wedding!
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- Engaged for about a month or lesser
This is something that marriage counsellors and experts deem as being a little too impulsive. A lot of families might see a
'muhurat' and rush the couple to the altar. But this impulsiveness is not looked upon too well by experts who say that rushing into marriage without getting to know the person for at least a month can lead to incompatibility and trouble later. So take your time, or ask for it.
- Engaged for one to three months
That means there's a lot to get done in a matter of months, which requires an immense amount of planning and dedication. You might also be one of those couples who isn't looking for a grand wedding at all, just something cozy and functional! A good sign, but take care to avoid issues cropping up due to the stress of planning a wedding at a short notice. In short, you guys are doing good!
- Engaged for four to six months
This, according to experts is the ideal courtship period for a successful marriage (which of course doesn't imply that others don't last!). But this is said to be a time period that is 'just right'. This also gives the couple the right amount of time to plan the wedding and lends a comfort factor between the couple as opposed to formal pretentiousness. Good going!
You believe in the importance of romance, when love letters and exciting meetings had all the charm! In fact, 13 months is said to be one of the most common gaps between the engagement and the wedding. This would mean that you not only are giving an time to know one another inside out, you're also going to get to know the families better. Things look settled and good!
- Engaged for one to two years
This is the time when the initial excitement has given way to a deeper relationship. You both might know each other and your partner's needs well, and the run-up to the marriage becomes more like an expected wait. But still, you know it's coming.
- Engaged for over three years
They call it the three-year itch for a reason. If you've been engaged for over three years and there's still no wedding in sight, experts say that it isn't a good sign unless there's a good convincing reason for it. Waiting around could mean that one or both the partners are not mentally prepared to settle down, or in some cases, want to keep their options open. Questions, doubts and insecurities could crop up, leading to misunderstandings that can wreck havoc on the relationship. Stay determined and don't let them bog you down!
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